Women in general tend to be more subtle in their flirting methods. One thing that you need to understand is that men are not accustomed to women flirting with them as much as women are accustomed to men’s advances. Many men prefer for women to talk to them or express an interest that lets them know you are checking them out. That being said, if you are shy or concerned about your flirting techniques, here are some tips to get you started:
First, make sure that you maintain repeated contact. Remember that the third time is a charm. Begin by making eye contact to let him know that you are flirting with him. The moment that he realizes he is the object of your attention he may smile back at you. This is the second contact. Make sure you give him your most alluring smile. The third contact is actual verbal contact. Introduce yourself to him or at the very least wave at him from across the room. This will let him know for certain that you are interested in him.
Never underestimate the power of a whisper. Whispering is sexy. You should think up things that you can whisper to him. Something like “Great tie - can I have it?” will definitely spark his interest. After all men have lines, why shouldn’t women? Just remember to keep your voice down and lean in to whisper. This will not only give you a chance to check out his cologne but will also leave him thinking that you are completely focused on him which is a big turn-on for men.
Most men like their women to be feminine. Be polite. If someone approaches you who you are not interested in then politely tell them no. Other men may be watching to see how you handle yourself. If you scream or cause a scene then you will be considered the female of all dogs - and not in the good way. Never laugh or draw attention to someone whom you have turned down after they leave. This will only make other men believe that you are shallow and backbiting. Tell this man that you appreciate him being attracted to you and maybe offer him the name and number of a girlfriend who might be interested.
This rule stands firm even if someone shows interest and acts like a complete jerk. You should still be as polite as womanly possible but be firm with your rejection. Let him know that you appreciate his efforts but not so much his demeanor.
One great way to see who might be checking you out is to use a buddy system. You can have a friend watch as you walk past the man you are interested in and let you know if he takes the bait.
While you are never underestimating the power of a whisper it is also important to never underestimate the power of physical attraction. Make yourself irresistible. Show some leg, wear high heels and sexy red lipstick. Having your nails painted a sexy shade doesn’t hurt either. Remember your grandmother’s posture rule. Sit up straight and even arch your back some while you sit. Do things to make yourself feel sexy. Chances are if you feel sexy then you will look sexy and we all know that men love sexy women.
Another thing that you can do to get his attention is to look over your shoulder and smile at him. This always signals to a man that you are interested in him. You can also use the man’s “check her out” method. Give him a complete go over from head to toe. Then give him a sexy nod and your sexiest smile to let him know that you approve completely of what you see.
Flirting is simply a way to connect to someone that you are interested in getting to know. Have fun with it and practice, practice, practice!