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“Why hasn’t he called?” This is the age-old question of women everywhere. That gut feeling that you get when a day or two goes by without hearing from your new guy may be interminable. There could be many reasons why he has not called you and understanding these reasons may give some relief to that insufferable nagging feeling that you may be experiencing.

There are many men who actually enjoy sending women into a frenzy over their phone calls. They want to play a game - it’s in their genes. Many men are afraid that if they call too soon they will appear desperate. They would rather wait for a few days and give you the impression that they actually have a life outside of your relationship. This may or may not be true but they will make you believe it just the same. This is a completely normal action and can occur over a few days. If it does go past just a couple days into a week then he may simply not be interested or could be so immature that he wants to take the game to a whole new level. Either way you are probably better off without him.

Actually if he stretches the call time past a week or so and then he suddenly calls you and asks for another date then he either enjoys playing women in general or he has other priorities that he considers more important and is simply using you as someone to fall back on in the event that his other priorities don’t pan out. This is also a warning sign of a married man. If you go out with someone who waits for a week to even a month before he calls again, and he does not offer a very credible (and verifiable) reason then you are probably better off finding someone else to spend your time with.

While these tips are excellent for those with a new relationship or a first date crisis, if the man in question is your steady boyfriend then you have every right to expect a call from him at least once per day. He should at the very least have an extra five minutes to pick up the phone and say hello. If you are in a semi-serious to serious relationship with someone who goes days without so much as a ten-second phone call to let you know that he is thinking of you then you are most definitely better off without him.

Of course he can always say that he was busy at work but this excuse can’t always fly. There are many men who will use work as an excuse to spend more time with the boys or even to date other women. If he travels extensively with his job or is in a job where security is an issue such as law-enforcement then he may very well not be able to call you periodically. You should know what type of industry employs him. If he is not in the type of job that could potentially hinder his use of the telephone then he may simply not be as serious about the relationship as you are. Or, if you have just begun dating then he may not want to pursue a closer relationship. This is one of those times when you should use your intuition and your best judgment.

Ultimately men are not nearly as complicated as women tend to believe. They often do not give the mixed signals that we see. If he does not call you soon after a date then chances are that he is simply not interested and you should move on to someone who is.

I have been thinking for some time now to address the comments below. Finally, came around that and here are my thoughts >> What to Do When He Doesn’t Call

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We both are Christian but the texin hve stop
written by Porsha, August 07, 2013
Need advice. I meet this man in July he was responsive to my tex,but now he dont reply. All of my tex messages was words of encouragement and im interested in him I went and purchase a travel ticket to go visit him, but he told me we should postpone my trip because he had alot going on. If he has anything to do with me I deserve the best,he dont wont to be out of order. But why he stop keeping in touch? Will he ever call me? Hve he lost interest, because I admit I started texin a lil more then I normally did because I really like dis guy. A potential husband. But as of today I hve not text him. Feeling disappointed because I got a ticket and now I get ignores.. Smh.. Do anybody feel he will soon call, and ready to date?? Thks so much for advice. May God Bless us all on our Love Life
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Convinced that men play with women's emotions
written by Dani Cali, February 05, 2013
I'm convinced that when men don't phone or text you after what you thought was a good first date, least by all signs, then they are men with issues, and they are playing you. They know it hurts for you to sit and wait after a first date for them to contact you. Before the date, they build it up. Say things like they think you're gonna be the one... then you are on a high. Then you go on your date, he's nice enough, but it's a bit deflated, then you never hear back. he doesnt even ask if you got home ok. this is a disgruntled man's way of getting back at women. don't fall for it - if a man says he thinks you're his soul mate before you even meet him, it's a line. and a red flag. people can be quite mean. and dating sucks because of it. smilies/sad.gif
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Met him and he got my phone Number
written by Jen, March 23, 2012
I met this great guy through mutual friends. He got my phone number and he said that he would call during the week. He lives about a four hour drive away....That was 6 days ago and I still have heard nothing.....Our mutual friends said that he was into me, so why no catch up call...he is moving to the area that I live in........so disapointed...
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Is he playing a game?
written by Rads, January 29, 2012
Let's call this guy A. He and I met online like 10 years ago but never really met. We hit it off as friends but everytime when we would talk either he would be dating someone or I would. He did ask me out a few times earlier but we never met. So last year we sort of fought when he thought I have made a sexist comment somewhere which was a joke for someone else (he just couldn't get it). So after the fight we took each other off our FB, gtalk but remained on linkedin. Last week, he sent me a message on linkedin saying nice DP... I replied decently... then he asked "let's catch up"... and I replied... work is keeping me busy let's talk about it sometime... four days on and no response... I don't get it. Is he playing or just not interested anymore?
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I don't get it
written by Dontknowwhattothink, December 20, 2011
ok, I'd been seeing this guy for about 3 years, it was really FWB and I'd been ok with that. A couple weeks ago this woman calls me up and starts telling me that he is her 4 yr boyfriend and they were talking about getting married, and who was I ? She'd found my cell number on his bill when she hacked into his online account. Well I knew she was lying because she'd had become his neighbor about 2 years ago, and they were both married but separated. She was psycho on me. He said, she did that to get on your nerve, so he stopped calling me and texting me and basically ignoring me. Anyways, I did a little research and discovered we had a professional mutual friend on FB. And I sent this mutual friend an email about what she'd done. A couple weeks later, I sent her a text and told her her I had emailed this mutual her office friend, she got nasty and I got nastier back. He texts me and says what are you doing? Then a long drawn out argurment starts and basically ends with him telling me dont ever text or call me again. I'm not crying but I am upset as the relationship was really nice and it ended badly. I never have bothered anyone and I just don't understand why this bitch would call me in the first place and lie about these things. I know I behaved badly but how much should a woman take?
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Actually no that much to say...
written by Lulu, December 14, 2011
...a part the fact that I met him one day, hosted the same day in my place with his friends and went having soft sex, sweet , two days after. It was all honest, we crashed on each others and had not much time to know each others. He is a musician (drums), travelling pretty much. I took some good pics of him and his groupe, most of them were very nice! and theye were very happy , thinking to use one of it as their next cover album. The camera belong to him and he promised to send those pics soon..So we spent the night togheter, it was nice...he talked about mysterious..he said "it s all about mysterious". It was soooooooooo sweet! and the day after he was happy and asked how I feel...he was singing under the shower? he was plainly happy//I drop him to the taxi station ..he had to go to the airport for another country where he had a concert.From there a hour later, he sent a sms to say: "THANK YOU".
I didn t ask anything, just a couple of pics I shot..We promised to give news and write..Now, it s 10 days gone..no news, no a email, no a call, no nothing. i wrote a message trough FB , still nothing.
How i could be so naif to believe he would had written ?
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Ugh-To Bumblebee
written by Kimora Kamokaze, November 28, 2011
I am in exactly the same kind of situation as you are in with your man. My man says he is always busy all of the time because of work, as he is a manager for a record label, and goes on PA's all the time. He has meetings, and is a landlord for like four houses, I've only been to 1 of them which isn't too far from my house literally 20 minutes away. He used to spend time with me more, like I used to stay at his house two days every week, and he'd pay for my cab and takeaways cheap mother F***** and he had the cheek to say to me "You're not grateful and appreciative, I pay for your cab your food". (By the way this was round the first few months of us just seeing each other which I don't consider as dating.)
I'm thinking to myself are you freaking kidding me! You think you really know how to treat a woman lol. He has never taken me out on a (real date) before and when he first made plans to meet with me, he said he'd take me out for a drink up to now I still haven't been taken me out for a drink and that was over a year ago now, when I was aged 20 and he was 28 now I'm 21 going on 22. And as a young woman that used to go on dates nearly every week, and in comparison to this I feel like I've lowered my standards but the sad thing is I never knew my guy, as successful as he is would treat me so poorly. I expected to be wined and dined so the treatment he gave me the cab and takeaway's didn't come close to what I was used to.
I was sick and tired of my mans lack of commitment, calling me when it was convenient for him, but he always made the excuse "But my times all I got." I personally just feel he was just being selfish, and like your guy puts everything else first and you second, like a second class citizen. I put up with his crap for so long and I one day said enough is enough, and I text him stating my reasons why I cant see him no more, and told him it was over. My man wouldn't let me go either and made plans to see me in the week, when he didn't stick to the plan I pulled him up on it. So when your man does something you don not like pull him up on it, as he cannot read your mind. I told him "this is why I cant see you no more you are so unreliable" He goes "Are you taking the p***" I was like "Not really..."
He met me on the same day after he failed to meet me the day before.

So from my experience as I am in it myself, I see this as wrong how your guy is treating you, because how I feel a bout my situation is I can do so much better and get treated like the high quality woman that I am. So can you. But when our feelings and emotions overtake us we lose our judgement.

You mentioned that there was a time when you went to his house and waited for 20 minutes, and he never opened the door OH MY GOSH, I swear if that were me that would have been the end of us, as quick as we got together.
Now if I were you I'd consider thinking about how this guy makes you feel, as you've felt funny and empty, so note this down because it's very important how you feel in a relationship. Think what does this person add to my life, do they enrich my life, do they make me smile from the inside. Because if he doesn't make you smile and makes you cry, this is an unhealthy relationship and things are going to get worse in the long run.
I think what you should do is stop being so available, and do things that make you happy you start acting busy, as he is busy instead of worrying about him. Sit him down when you are available and tell him your wants and needs, do not say we need to talk as men dread the (We need to talk) to you phase. Tell him how you feel, and be firm. Men respect you more when you are pointing out your values, and principles. Also tell him that when you're around his friend's and he acts up by twisting things around, to make it seem like it's your fault tell him that you feel like he is manipulating you. And from now on maybe when there is a problem with him in public and at friend Get Together's as I'm sure there will be, you should not address issues in your relationship around everyone do it in private.
When you do settle your issues with him, watch to see if he changes his behavior and has taken everything into consideration, as when he does...then you will know he does care about you after all.smilies/kiss.gif
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Wake up ppl
written by FearsomeRose, November 10, 2011
F*** them scumbags throw what you feel for the guy to the dumpser if he aint texting or calling and if he does text or call but when he feels like it it aint worth a blink stop putting up exuses that he is working or playing games and what ever bullshit exuse you putting up when you really like someone you gonna text or call every chance you you get helloooo ppl get back to reality is like me and mt best friend say; F*** THEM SCUMBAGS!
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written by Lily, October 26, 2011
So me and this guy that I met on facebook have been talking and he's been wanting to hangout for a long time, but I kept making excuses. Then finally, I just got up and went out with him. So we basically just made out and I didnt want to go to far, but I guess that diassapointed him? So after I came home he didnt not call or text and its been 5 days! And today I found out he had deleted me off of facebook. I mean I knew he wasnt gonna like me and I told him we shouldnt try to get so close cuz I'm gonna end up getting hurt at the end. And he promised that wouldnt happen. Well it happened. I just dont understand whay he would do this! smilies/angry.gif
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ugh
written by bumblebeee, October 25, 2011
I've been with my boyfriend for about 10 months now. Everything is definitely not great. I don't get upset about it anymore though, because I've gotten a new job and apartment, so I'm busy.

But he only calls me over after he's done everything else he needs to do for the day. This includes drinking with his friends till 1pm (MULTIPLE times a week), "having dinner at his dads", etc.
For instance, he REFUSES to make plans with me or give me an exact time we can see each other, even if it's just for the next day. The reason for this is because he will never choose me over his friends, or any other random thing that comes along.

He will blow our plans off for everyone else, but WILL NOT adjust his life even 5 minutes for me.

And get this, I work 55 hours a week, and he calls me at 10pm to come over to his house. He lives half an hour away. But I go to see him, because I love him and I want to see him.
I show up, and he fell asleep. With the door locked. I stood knocking on the door and calling him for 20 minutes. I ended up going home because he wouldn't wake up.

I'm just tired of being upset you know? At this point, I don't even care WHY he's doing it, I just want to know whether these things are a big deal or not.

And he never lets me get mad at him, he always flips the tables. For instance, I will get mad at him for calling me something in front of his friends, but then I am the bad guy for how MY reaction made him feel.

I am supposed to be super respectful and caring for him, but he takes 4 hours just to get back to my text messages or phone calls.

I'm 20, he's 24. I haven't been in enough relationships to know whether this one constitutes as a crock of sh**t or not.

He tells me he's so so so SOOOOO busy, but he'll let it slip like "I was at lunch with so-and-so....I went to breakfast with so-and-so...", and I never say anything but like....ugh.

And then when he FINALLY does something with me (but he'll rush the whole time because he has other things he wants to do), he asks if I appreciate it and makes a big deal about it.

I just feel funny and empty. I don't look forward to seeing him anymore. I don't EVER expect him to call. When he gives me a time, or makes a promise, I let it go in one ear and out the other.

But shouldn't a boy be able to make promises to me? Shouldn't he WANT to spent his time with me?

I'm just confused because he won't let me break up with him, so it makes me think maybe he does like me a little. Plus he tells me he loves me, and does spend nearly every night with me....unless he forgets. But I always am waiting on him. ALWAYS.
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written by Beach Cruisers, October 17, 2011
Loads of excellent writing here. It was indeed very helpful and insightful while being straight forward and to the point. Thanks for the posting.
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For Fuzzels
written by chryssya, October 04, 2011
Hey! It's ok if he still calls you even if it's not that frequent. When a man starts a relationship with a woman he likes, he tries to find out a lot about her and that is probabily the reason why he was calling you so often.After a while he feels very stable in his relationship with her and he starts to focus his time and attention to other important things that not include you( deep down in his heart he knows you are there for him and you will not let go of him..he tested you in the begining, you know).
Anyway..we women should not despair when our boy doesn't call.
My advice: try to talk to his friend...and his friend will tell him he taalked to you and this will make him feel gelous.
Good luck ladies! smilies/wink.gif
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Maybe this is what he does.... im new at long term relationships
written by fuzzles, October 02, 2011
So I met this guy through my friend Aly( not real name) his name is Dexter (not real name) we've been dating for almost eight months know smilies/smiley.gif yay. at the begining of the relationship he used to call me allllllllllllll the time and text me allllllll the time.but these past three months the calling and texting has become less and less. sometimes i wont hear from him in like 2 days.....but when we hang out he's totally into me and we have an amazing time...is it normal for the txting and calling to slow down
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written by Auroravania, September 23, 2011
So i've been in a .. what i thought was a serious relationship with this lovely guy for over a month now.. my birthday is tomorrow and my birthday dinner is tonight. Anyway.. he stayed over last weekend, as he does.. and went home and called me to say he was home and that he'd talk the next day.
Ordinarily, we talk EVERY day on the phone. he sends texts and calls, as do i. but since sunday.. nothing. and its saturday now. he's sent me 1 text this week "sweet dreams xxoo" late at night. he doesn't answer his phone, and hasn't replied to my texts. he has known about this birthday dinner and to be completely honest i feel as though my guts are twisted up and being stabbed all at once.
Now... this is a guy that repeatedly said "you dont understand how i feel about you"... well he's right. I dont understand.. because if i did understand, then i'd know why the hell he isn't talking to me. I don't need this. I have my big 30th party next saturday with lots of family and friends, and he decides to do a disappearing act now?
hmm.. I guess he didn't know how I felt about him.
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written by Marlene, September 12, 2011
Dear Chelsea, I read your comment. Be careful. I had similar kind of boy friend. Please check out websites like Lovefraud, your boyfriend sounds like a psychopath or sociopath. How he treats you is WRONG and no one shoudl call you slut !!!
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On Your Mind 24/7
written by Chelsea, September 10, 2011
Heyy Ive Been reading all the comments and things people have posted. Its really made me think about how my bf treats me. He Calls Me A Slut even tho i losted my virginty to him, doesnt let me out with my fiends,deleted my facebook because there's lads on there Hes Also got my mobile phone on a tracker so he knows everywhere im goin. He Doesnt like me walking round our town he says only slag walk around get a taxi!! But then he can be soo sweet with nice textes spends hours on phone to me until i fall asleep then he will put the phone down so as he wakes up in the morning he will text me a cute message.When he sleeps over at my house he plays with my hair and paints my nails and tickle my face till i fall sleep so everything he called be before i just let slip because he bein a perfect bf every girl wants but sooon as WEEKEND Comes its like im SINGLE!! No textes messages no phone calls or if he does txt me or phone me for exsample he said he was on the way to my house to spend friday nyt with me i waited up all nite for him but he neva came which then i not able get to sleep because im wondering wer he is or whats he doiin. theres something telling me in the back off my mind he has another girlfriend but im nt sure myt just be me bein paroniod. but then soon as monday comes he the bf every girl wants again i just dont get him im thinking off just letting him goo but there something about him that im holding on to and carnt let go !! i think Its The BadBoy thats making me stay with him please helpp i reallly dont no wht to do ?
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Reality Check
written by K, September 05, 2011
Just a quick reality check: doctors, attorneys, heads of nations...they all call, text, and spend time with their women (or men!). Don't make excuses for him/her that he/she is "really busy". There is time each day if they want to talk to you and see you! If they don't, move on and you'll find someone who's a better fit for you! smilies/smiley.gif
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why man don't call, but he text me throughout all day!!!
written by Just to quick!!!, September 03, 2011
First of all, I would like to Thank you, I found ur online site regarding this matters, I'm happy for it! I been checking everyday if u replied back, regarding my concern about this new guy, that i just met him via dating site, Just to tell u Rita, we still communicating thru text and we've been talking by phone too but not everyday its just once a week. We have a plan to meet after his vacation maybe end of this month. I Hope everything will be alright, atleast i need to see him first and see what happen if its gonna work or not. we both falling inlove each other. But im not sure yet Rita, I will let u know soon. Godbless and Thanks again!!!I appreciated ur advice for me!
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Dont call or tex any more he got mad t me and saim going back to my wife
written by Brown sugar, September 03, 2011
hthis guy that i be with for nine years four when he as here with me and the rest on time he in jail got out of jail we got back together so ond day he got made at me because this other guy that i got with so he got mad and said that why now he dont call or tex im feed up with the bullshit imworty of somebody else so geting the fuck away from his ass if you dont want me than someboyd do baby
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written by embarrised, September 01, 2011
i met a guy at a festival, we got too know it each and we had alot in common after a couple of days things happened, which isnt like me at all i guess i was just caught up in the moment. we spent most of the rest of the festival together and had a great time, i didnt get his number after cos i new if i wanted too i could find him on facebook but wasnt sure if i wanted too. but after a few days i thought it would be nice too talk too him so i messaged him just asking how he was and if he had recovered yet i put my number on it aswell. about an hour later he wrote on his wall its a festival bitches, shit happen hahahaha! i cant help feel tht his is aimed at me i feel like a right ideot now and wish i had never sent him a message and i feel used and like i didnt know him at all. i feel a total fool and like kicking myself and just embarrised im trying too be the bigger person and ignore it forget it and move on but i have never been treated like this by a guy im 23 and havent been dumpted or anything by a guy since i was about 13. usually guys really like me and its me tht ends it for good reasons. maybe my ego has been hurt a bit but i defo gona be more cautious in the future and gona make um work for it
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in response to Just to quick!!!,
written by Rita, August 31, 2011
Well I am by far no love guru...but I'd say if you just met him 4 days ago, don't think too deeply into it. You just met....he can't like or dislike you that quick. And people are more comfortable texting these days instead of talking on the phone. I'd give it time and see how it goes. Definitely don't meet him in person until your feel comfortable.
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why man don't call, but he text me throughout all day!!!
written by Just to quick!!!, August 26, 2011
Ive meet this guy online,nd we start texting and weve talked one time over the phone......my question is his he really likes me? coz, i want to communicate him by voice but again he text me everyday till morning!!!! I'm confused though coz he really open his intention with me...he likes me and want me to be with him. The problem is his status was separated to his exwife and on processed for divorced but not sure though if hes really honest about his feeling we never meet yet...he's planning but i'm not ready....help me pls i'm so confused though I've know him only 4dys now!!!pls give me advice what to do?
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written by JJ, August 24, 2011
I have been friends with the wonderful man for 3 yrs and we finally got together. Things have been great and yesterday I told him that my ex's brother came by and saw his newphew. The wonderful guy got mad and said bye. Got a few texts and calls but this morning I have texted and called and has not answered. I sent him a email and said R U going to ignore me all day. He sent an email back and said ok give him a few. I have heard nothing since then. I don't know what to do. He knew my story before he got involved with me....... I am so deeply in love with this man and I am hurting......

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written by S.J, August 24, 2011
Well... I was in a summer camp and a boy said that he liked me and he even gave a half heart necklace and he has the other half and he said i should always wear it. But when the summer camp was over and we all went home he than gaved me messeges and 1 call in 2 days and now it's been now 4 weeks and he didn't call me or text and i don't know that he is playing a game with me smilies/sad.gif
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My best friend turned "lover" or something like that
written by Rita, August 23, 2011
So I have this friend that I've know since high school (we're both in our 30's now) and he's always let it be known that he's attracted to me. We used to talk about everything (his problems in his relationship and mine as well) We would text back n forth all day long. Recently, he broke up with his girlfriend and I broke up with my boyfriend so I decided to give him a chance. All these years he's been telling me how he loves me and wants to be with me so I thought it'd go well. We had sex...it was amazing! Our connection is superb! BUT- now he is distant. I don't hear from him nearly as often. We don't talk to each other about everything anymore, I feel like he keeps secrets now. I am surprising him with a spa day next weekend for his bday. Yesterday I text him to say hey how's ur day and he replied that it wasn't too good...I said whats wrong hun?....no reply. An hour later, I text "well whatever it is, I hope it gets better. Have a good day"....no response. 11pm last night I text "Baby........
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written by Aveja, August 22, 2011
Please advise me!!
I met this guy in NYC, I used to work as a frelance at his company. We were really good frinds. Her boss told me he had a crush on me. We used to talk about everything. I was with my boyfriend at the time.I move to another city, we continue talking... now we are in the same city we went out... he text me call me say he anted to see me...... last friday we had sex and he is ignoring me. I text him Hi Frank and he only text back my name.
Why is he acting like that?
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written by Aveja, August 22, 2011
Please advise me.
I was in NYC and I met this guy
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written by JJ, August 16, 2011
thanks so much!! I understand the guy I've just dated recently now... i fell in love with him
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written by Liza, June 24, 2011
I think that if your boyfriend does not call you, its better...that way your know at least that he is probably with someone else...in my case HE will always call me, pick me up,cook for me, feed me...gave me flowers..but in his phone I found textmessages and phone calls from other women he has been dating for as long we have been dating (4 other women at the same time) smilies/angry.gif
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Seriously.....
written by Lou, June 23, 2011
everyone having problems.... stand back and imagine what advice you would give to a friend if they were in the same situation. I'll bet most of you would tell your friends to stop wasting energy on men who cant be bothered to use any energy staying in touch or treat you right.

Feeling neglected? Give him one chance to put it right, and if he cant deliver after being given a second chance, leave the bugger behind and focus on the more important thing in life - yourself!! Otherwise it will be a never ending circle.

Sometimes we just have to face up to the fact that some people aren't who we thought or hoped they were.
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Ex wants me back!!
written by KGOMOTSO, June 21, 2011
I met dis guy on dating site last year around November 2010..I mean he sounded so really..& I fell 4 him..we started talking on the phone for long almost every day...& exchanging emails..den we met in Jan 2011 I mean I completely fell 4 him..things went well b/t us but later he started having excuses of spending time with me..he will always tell me abt his mother or his sister needing dis and that..then he pulled away 4rom me..without a word...no phone call or email..all of the sudden he is coming back and telling me he misses me & he is sorry he pulled away he was going through some stuff..I mean damn him.. smilies/angry.gif so he thinks im stupid..
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written by hmm, June 20, 2011
It's cruel. Delete his number and pretend he is six feet underground. Find peace in that thought and focus on realizing that the man for you, is so amazing, your own imagination doesn't even come close to conjuring up what he must be like in real life. Happy quest girls! And never let it escape your mind that it is better to move on SOONER than later... =)
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written by Zoe, June 19, 2011
I met this boy a couple months ago at a friends birthday and we texted all the time we even spoke on the phone a couple of times. When I met up with him at his house it was kind of akward at first but things got better and eventually we were kissing. When i refused to give him a blow job things got akward and when I left i got a peck on the lips but it felt like he was doing it because he felt he had to not because he wanted to. I texted him the day after but he didn't reply. How long do i wait before I should move on because he probably won't text me back.
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Sleepless in Texas
written by In love and puzzled!!, June 16, 2011
I reconnected to an old flame from 27 years ago on facebook. He tracked me down, came on so strong about always loving me and wanting to get back together. We are hundreds of miles apart but we were committed to making it work. I am a single mother and had no intentions of starting a relationship with anyone. This started in October of 2010. Well about 2 months ago, calls started to get less and less. I told him that I felt neglected and needed the calls to continue at least for a few minutes every other day, unlike the two hours a day calls from before. He says he still loves me and nothing has changed and that he is just going thru some things like bills and his grown kids, blah, blah, blah. He says he just shuts down sometimes and doesn't know any other way to handle his situation. I love this man so much and doesnt understand why he won't meet me half way. We haven't physically gotten together yet so it's not a hit and quit situation. I'm ready to block his number and de-friend him on facebook, Just in case he actually does call. I just don't want the guilt of ending something first, that might could've been. Maybe I will, when I'm back on my feet again, emotionally.....
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written by Danielle , June 13, 2011
I gave a Guy my number and he said he was kinda seeing soneo but he'd call me. A mutual friend said they r Just dating and its not serious but its been 3 days and he hasn't called. Is it cause I have kids and going through a divorce. Which was a bad marriage. What's the deal. He said to our friend he was going to call e
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written by inlove but confused, June 09, 2011
To whom it may concern im having a strange relationship, everything went quite well in the first few months, as the days went by we made love and we still carried on perfectly up until now, my boyfriend has changed so much in such a way that he does not call me any longer, I dnt recieve anymore messages from him either do i get phone calls. To cut the news short lately I have been calling him and he has not for about 6 days and I just sent a msg asking him the matter and had tried talking to him he said there is nothing wrong, but from what I am seeing is that it is either he is cheating on me or he is hiding something from me ,possibly he did not love at all,

I just need help people and I would appreciate the advices i will get , I am stressing so much that I can not cope with my tertiary work any more I think I have just given my all to this relationship, Please feel free to help me
makhanaythandoh @ gmail.com

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To Vanessa The one who's getting married not- K.C. my mistake
written by Kimora Kamokaze , June 01, 2011
Hi Vanessa, I'm very shocked to hear this I'm very sorry to hear your fiancée has gone without a word, God Bless you. I think your fiancée, was just very ashamed he couldn't get the money and maybe he feels he let you down. For men in general, they feel and know in their hearts their meant to be providers. One thing you must know about men is "Failure is death" for a man, not actually death as in dead but they cant face shame, especially if it's a woman they love and have to look after or impress. The wedding you said is in 2 days's, so all you can do is wait till the day of your wedding, and if he turns up there is your answer- YES he DOES LOVE you. If he does not then he does not. Which can either mean that the shame is stronger than the love, he has for you. Think positive honey and you will get good results. I wish you all the best in the future, and let me know if he turned up okay? All the best... smilies/kiss.gif
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To KC about the Wedding
written by Kimora Kamokaze , June 01, 2011
Hi KC, I'm very shocked to hear this I'm very sorry to hear your fiancée has gone without a word, God Bless you. I think your fiancée, was just very ashamed he couldn't get the money and maybe he feels he let you down. For men in general, they feel and know in their hearts their meant to be providers. One thing you must know about men is "Failure is death" for a man, not actually death as in dead but they cant face shame, especially if it's a woman they love and have to look after or impress. The wedding you said is in 2 days's, so all you can do is wait till the day of your wedding, and if he turns up there is your answer- YES he DOES LOVE you. If he does not then he does not. Which can either mean that the shame is stronger than the love, he has for you. Think positive honey and you will get good results. I wish you all the best in the future, and let me know if he turned up okay? All the best... smilies/kiss.gif
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written by Kim, June 01, 2011
I met this guy last Nov. through some friends, we went out, oh we live 12 hours away from each other and have had contact every since, back in Jan. I texted him, he was kinda short so I responded back don't worry I wont contact you again, and I didn't, well in March he starts calling me wants to know when I'm gonna find my way to Detroit,I answered as soon as you find your way back to VA., he also invited me to go Nashville this summer,so he starts calling me everyday, so I agree to go to Detroit, we had so much fun, after about 1 1/2 after I returned he started calling me less and less, and gives no reason when he does call back as to why he hasn't called in 2,3 or 4 days. So I just leave it alone and cut all ties?
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written by Tina, May 31, 2011
Ok so I really could use someones help.This is along story that I will try to make short.There is this guy that I have been on and off with for 5 years in between that time i had a child and he did as well.Anyway i love him with all my heart to the point where it hurts.I havent heard from him in almost to weeks and hes on my facebook page and doesnt even say hi. when we are together i can feel the love btween him and i. my question is how can i get over him or should i contact him to find out watsup?
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written by Vanessa scheepers, May 30, 2011
I have been inlove with a men that i know he really love me too he's we had to get married he paid for everthing but had a problem with paying the venue because he was promised money from a business deal but he didnt get it. what i know is that he really loves me but because he didnt get the money and he promised to get it he vanished 2 days before the wedding nd i havnt heard from him since, he was a great men but let down by the money situation nd didnt have the guts to tell me because he knwew i would go crazy he hasnt called me he didnt leave with any clothes or even his medication becuase hi very ill. Do you think he didnt love me smilies/sad.gif
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written by kc, May 29, 2011
i am so confused with my guy he tells me he cares about me and that he cant stand being without me and when we end up hanging out hes always acting strange like he doesnt talk that much kiss me or hold me when hes with me. we went to the mall the other day he grabbed my hand but when he saw his friend he let my hand go so fast. does that mean hes to afraid to be seen holding my hand. later that night he started to text me and wanted to play a truth game and i went along and it was my turn and i asked him where do we sit at, are we bf and gf and he goes idk im not ready for a relationship but then he tells me that he still wants to kiss me. what should i do?
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We have low EQ
written by Austin, May 24, 2011
I'm a guy which is 30 this year. It is not entirely our fault but since I'm a guy, I should try and explain why we act this way. I tends to do what you gals mentioned below. Firstly I observe my partner carefully. Online I could tell if she is busy chatting with other guys and if she is... I BACK OFF! Face to face I will see if she is responsive as in communicating or eye contact. If both are weak, I'll still be a gentleman on the date but once I send you home... I BACK OFF. I dun care if you are trying to maintain ur pride but if I'm not getting the strong signal I doesn't want to waste my time there. As a 30 years old man, I can't afford to be sending sweet text day and night ending up not getting the gal. Call me timid but I still prefer to BACK OFF. Did you send the wrong signal to him? Seriously this is a one sided story. How about those time when we thot we stand a chance and went all out but was rejected badly. The feeling is painful do you know? If a guy could take it easily then trust me, he is not hunger for your love. Many men was hurt the way I mentioned above but kept quiet everyday even this very minute while you are reading this. We can't read your mind as in how truthful when you said the dinner is great, nice to be out with you. Can't you just put it in, it is great having this dinner with you or when can you bring me out again. This is the definite signal we need or I need. And if he doesn't call after the date let's say 3 days... that's it... F him! Please 3 days, we need time to think thru before committing to you. We might think it thru while we are walking home or we are having a beer session with our buddy... Just let them know that YES I WANT TO BE WITH YOU and if he dun call, forget about him.
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he never called
written by kathy, May 18, 2011
my boyfriend left me after an argument, it has been two months. how cani get him back, i cant call him because i dont want to let my pride down please advise me am really in love with him after webrock up with each other he never tried to get intouch with me and for my side i just dissapeared and stayed away from him since than i am so unhappy
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playres
written by irene, May 11, 2011
The moment men get wha they wanted,they will no longer care about your feelings especiallly married men.
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Can someone explain this guy??
written by Leigh, May 10, 2011
Hello,
last week I came across a guy i used to know since I was little. He was in a hospital and had an operation. We last seen each other over 20 years ago and obviously both me and him have changed - me for the better and him not as goodlooking as he was. However, something ticked in me...anyway, he asked for my number (twice) during the hour and a half I saw him. As a matter of fact, i almost forgot giving it to him when leaving, but he asked for it and rang me so as to give me his number too. Now, almost a week down the line and he hasn't called...what does this mean??
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nada, nilch, zip,
written by Jean Yaket, May 02, 2011
It's funny. I've been through this game so many times and yet each time I lose my cool. I've had the worst luck with men this last year (cheaters, womanizers, one-night wonders etc...) that I don't expect the best from them, but a little respect would be nice. I met this one guy on a dating website. We had plans to meet but I kept cancelling because of work stuff, but he was persistent so we finally met face to face. We had some crazy chemistry!!! He texted me the next morning, just a little hello and we talked about meeting up again really soon. The next day my phone fell out of my pocket so I sent him a message letting him know that I was phoneless so if he wanted to meet up he should send me a message. He never did, it's been three days. I'm a little annoyed at this point... smilies/tongue.gif
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No more
written by Jean Yaket, May 02, 2011
It's funny. I've been through this game so many times and yet I lose my cool every single time. I've had the worst luck with men in the last year (clingy, apathetic, womanizers, cheaters, one-night wonders etc...) so I really don't expect much from guys anymore. However, I did just meet a great guy on this dating website. We had plans to meet up but I kept cancelling because of work stuff, but he was persistent and we finally met up. We had some crazy chemistry!!! He texted me the next day, just a little hello and we talked about seeing each other really soon. Then I thought I lost my phone so I emailed him to let him know that I was phoneless and told him to send me a message if he wanted to meet up. He didn't. It's been three days now. I have been keeping busy, but I had the day off today and all I can think about is seeing him again. I'm pretty annoyed... smilies/tongue.gif
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first date was superb but then....
written by V, April 29, 2011
I had my first date with this cool guy couple of days ago and he's so much better than what I expected before. We had this nice dinner at a hotel and then after 3.5 hours great conversation he walked me home and he insisted to pay 80% of the food bill. The date was unforgettable. It was raining on my way home, we waited in front of a store and it was so perfect. An hour later after we said goodbye I wrote on his facebook wall and he said we should definitely do it again. Now it's been 2 days and I don't know if he's too shy to call/text me or he doesn't think I'm attractive enough or maybe he's too busy but it's killing me. I know if I text/call him or write on his facebook wall he'll reply it right away but I don't want him to think that I'm so desperately in love with him smilies/sad.gif
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written by Just another joe, April 27, 2011
After today, I vow never to read another "if he likes or why doesn't he call me" bull crap ever again. I think it needs to go both ways on a relationship, men are human beings too and yet we treat them like we're not supposed to give them hope and courage but to blow them off because we don't want our stupid pride to be tattered. A wise friend once told me; if you want something, go get it! Life's too short to play around. I care and respect for this one guy very much but he's SUPER busy. He works a full time job, an internship, is a video producer and is trying to get another job to have ends meet. He doesn't call or text me and therefore I'm the one that does it, we only get to talk once a week if that. But that's because I'm not going to show up in his life and snatch his dreams away from him just because I want him to call me first or pay more attention to me. I told him the other day that I understand that he's busy and he doesn't have to worry. He then responded, "Thank you, I really appreciate that." Just from the sound of his voice I could tell it meant the world to him, and it warmed my heart. So F you all for treating men like shit, same for men that treat women like shit but stop with the he should she should call me first kindergarten nonsense and just call them!
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More intelligible conversations please...
written by Penelope, April 24, 2011
Hello everyone:

it's rather difficult to respond to emails that are written without proper punctuation or even understandable questions/comments. Sentences that don't sound correct when you read them out loud to yourself (simple proof-reading) ought to be copy-edited so that you can get a response to your query. It doesn't matter how old you are, proof-reading and copy-editing the words and thoughts that you put out to the world via the internet should be standard practice.

Thank you,
Penelope
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Powerful thoughts
written by Cleopatra, April 22, 2011
Wow!
I read them all you guys comments...
I met him about 4 years ago. Relationship just goes on and off...
He plays mind games with me too.
He calls me 3x then...nothing!...
We "HAD" and I say HAD plans to live together, but not anymore.
Thank you for helping me feel less confused and anxious about him.
I m done with him.
I m not texting or calling him anymore.
If I had had the courage to end a legal relationship with my ex of 13 years, why not make my mind up and send this new loser to hell.
Thank you very much and I am reading : "the rules by ellen fein and sherrie schneider"...do it you too. Hell with them players liers losers!!!! smilies/wink.gif
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written by Arabia, April 18, 2011
I been talkin to this boy for like 3 weeks now, most of the time he will not text back, we have never talked on the fone. The bad thing is, i have him in my class, when we first started talkin he would hug me after class and wait on me, now he want even wait for me or even respond back to my text message,i text him one day in class saying hay, He-said whats upz, am like nothin. Then i text are u goin to wait on me after class, he didnt even reply back.. I'm so tired of dealing with boys i wish he would just be straight up and let me kno do he want this relationship anymore...
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I can't stand immature men
written by Kimora Kamokaze , April 18, 2011
My experience now with this calling business, men are addicted to the chase one you've accepted that concept, you've past the first stage. Becoming too available is where women go wrong, you've got to act like you don't have a care in the World, carrying on living your life as if you'd never met him. That way he'll want to know what you been up to, in all the time he's been supposedly absent because of work, holiday, family issues or who the hell knows He'll realize in time when you do this, that you're not waiting around for him, and to him that will blow his mind on a huge level, a positive one. You have to live your life for you, not for him or anyone else. Let him be the one to pick up the phone and call, and until then you should never take any man serious unless they are ready to be in a committed relationship...if he aint ready then don't be there, because if you are there, he'll think yeah I can always come back to her when I dissapear off the face of the Earth she wont leave, I got her right where I want her. If you're the girl that's there that's called exclusive commitment, to this so called unavailable man you don't want to fall into that trap. All I know is for sure, you got to keep your options open girls that way you wont need to worry about that man, that don't give a damn. Live your life, be happy and free it's not a bad thing.smilies/kiss.gif
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written by Men on websites, April 13, 2011
This guy emailed me via a dating website. He seemed really interested in me. We text a few times and have been waiting for a date/ chance to meet him for over 3 weeks now. So when I text him are you still interested in me just let me know? He texts me he still is interested but waiting for the right time to meet me as he works etc. This to me is frustrating and although I was prepared to wait for him it seems Im losing interest now. I have been reading blogs on why men don't call and it seems that you have to play games to get their interest. Well Im fed up of playing games and Im not desperate. Maybe I sounded that way because I liked him but I could get someone else, I just wanted to wait for this one that was all.
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Time to learn women,be selfish too.........
written by Blair84, April 13, 2011
Well,i`ve read it all,heard it all and done it all,am just 27 and i`ve been through a lot to the point that i dont give a damn if he calls or not,you see...........when you make yourself available and get your hopes up thats when you`ll get hurt.Talking from my experience with this calling and he is not into you stuff,but seriously,you`ve been hurt enough and went through pain,why wont you just let nature take it course?meaning that if you met a guy,you have a sparkling on the first day then leave it there,right where you find it,dont take it with you and let it be the false alam in your life.Trust me,i didnt know how to handle it at first,so...i met the guy on one of the dating site,he was totally not my type at all but i said,screw the type,let have fun with this,so i replied to his messages,we ended up chating everyday and in 2 weeks,he came to where i was and i had a perfect time with him and he promised to call the next day but i didnt put it in mind at all and he called,we hit it off and the next day he left so everything went well between us and trust me,i didnt even worried about the after life for our nice weekend together,i knew it was all that it was and never expected anything more than a casual thing we had but for him,it wasnt,he didnt text or called but in 2days later,he did and this time he called,not text or emails,he said how amazing it was and he will love it so much if it`ll be something exclusive with just me and him and he is deadly serious about this and i was so surprised,first....i didnt expect that and secondly....it was soo suddenly for him to be that interested,so i said...what the hell so i decided to give it a shot while i take it slow and get to know him more and you`ll be surprised,he was the one to confess his love for me and i took like 5 months to do so and now we`re enganged and arranging for our wedding.Like i said,dont put your focus on the guy,even if he is that attractive and good looking,be selfish because men are selfish,thats what women have to learn when it comes to relatioships that are not having a head or a tail,find yourself in that situation,just be selfish honey,then you`ll see that men love selfish women,those who wont be clingy or desperate to chase them or text them all the time,keep yourself busy,have a life and dont let him be your distraction,thats the advice i can give to my fellow sisters.Hopes it helps smilies/smiley.gif
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It seem like he dont care since i move closer to him!!
written by Debroah, April 10, 2011
I meet this guy off facebook. I was living in GA, he text me during the day and sometimes call at nite. I'm saying to myself I think this guy is different. I'm 19 b 20 in June, he is 33, and I made arrangements to come to Texas to b closer to him, cause he lives in Houston Texas. I'm in San Antonio. And I told him I don't want u to hurt me, nor my feelings. I want an honest and loyal relationship etc... He said I won't want hurt u. And I trusted him. So I move from GA to Texas. I transfer school. When I told him I was moving to b closer and b with him he was so happy and so were I. Now I'm here. And it seems like he don't give ah damn about him. I text him, he text back about 3 or 4 hrs later and sometimes not at all. I call, never pick up. I text him and ask was he ignoring me he said no babe I was really busy at work and I was like u could have told me instead of me thinkin like u don't care. And of course he said I'm sorry babe. I accepted his apology, like we all do, at least some of us woman. And I try not to call or text him. Ill want him to make the first move, sometimes I can't help it but to do so. I text him one day to ask him was he mad at me even tho I haven't done anything, just a text so he can text me back he said no I have my kids today. I didn't text back. I understand him spending time with his kids I do, its just he's not making the effort to c me. He always say ima try to take this day off to c u. Didn't happen! Its been 2 months and we haven't been on a single date yet. I cry and cry. I try not to but it hurts. It seem like I care bout this not him. And I told him I will never tell u I love u until I c where this relationship goes. I just can't believe I move over here to b with him and nothing has happen yet, and also when he's on facebook I sent him a msg like y haven't u call or text me no response. If u so busy y in the hell u on facebook. If u got time to b on there, then y no calls or text. This is ridiculous. I refuse to get my feelings hurt again. I'm this close of giving up, but I'm trying to c will he come around if I don't text or call him.
This is a headache for me!!
What shall I do??? smilies/angry.gif
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Emotional Rollercoaster
written by just sayn, April 08, 2011
That's all it is. When he calls, you are excited...beside yourself with joy. You two hang out and spend time....good stuff. 2 days later...nothing. You checking your phone to see if it still works!! You keep making lame excuses like....he must be busy or maybe he is sick. Whatever! That man is playing games and the best way to handle a man like that is don't jump when he calls...let it go to voicemail. Eff him!! He's on your schedule....you are NOT on his! Show him you have a life outside of him. If a man wants you he's coming for you...period. If he's playing mind games he likes to be in control and if he doesn't feel like he has control of the situation he bounces. Been there, done that. Your best bet is to keep going on with life and do you! If he doesn't communicate anymore...oh well. His loss. DO NOT BLOW HIS PHONE UP!! It only feeds his ego. Ignore that ass. My ex told me that women mess up when they give their power away to a man. Ladies, take your power back. I'm out! smilies/grin.gif
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this guy is being so weird
written by gal, April 04, 2011
just dated this guy not long ago, he is very inconsistent. somedays he will do things that will please me and make me feel sweet, he told me he sneaked out of class and called me, but he has to go back, and then next day, he would text me and ask what i was doing and when i replied him and asked if he knew i called him lastnight, he did not reply me anything until he texted me (not call) next day and then he apologized and said he was too busy and made some other excuses....this hot and cold behaviour is so annoying, i wonder if something is wrong with him mentally or does he actually think this is normal? oh and on top of that, he is quite nice to me in person, and very affectionate. seriously, wtf, i wish he would just behave consistently, or just leave me alone!!
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Guyz r different
written by Imash, March 31, 2011
U got 2 undstnd him.they also have a life besides love-life.
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wasting time?
written by lili, March 30, 2011
It makes sense. I had a first date with a guy and had a great time, even some got into some physical. He never called me between first and second date. We did email. Not much texting either. On email, he is like sweet and wanting to see me again. but no call. Now, we said to meet again, but no calls at all! Initiating email is most of the time it's me. He emails me back shortly, but no calls, nor text. He is a sigle dad of 15 years old. Work is busy he says. But, you know what, right he is not into me. I should be looking for other guy to hand out by now.
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it makes me want to get to knoe HIM!
written by stuck , March 29, 2011
so i met this guy. im 18 and he has to be around 20ish. hes extremly attractive and i decided to ask him for coffee somthing casual. of course i only asked him because i though he was kinda in to me aswell. well sure enough he say "sure" and told me to write my number down on the back of a reciept.(i askend him out while he was working, not the best i know but i dont see him anywhere else and im a customer) anyways, a week passes no call. but i bump into him again and then i decided i would ask for his number while i was ther...of course it didnt save into my phone so i was back in square one waiting as usual. by now its about a month and nothing. i go in the store again and it was just me and him a a coworker of his. i know he was afraid i was going to ask him why hadnt he called, but i would never it wasnt appropriate and that isnt my style. that was the last time i saw him and that was around feb. its been practicly 2 months and this guy has me thinking about him because he never called, but yet he said he would. my mom and a few of my friends think i should stop in again. i think i should too, but i dont plan on making waves, i just want to see him. does anyone have an advise? maybe some similar experience they can share with me? im kinda stuck smilies/tongue.gif
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Not worth it
written by Minniemz, March 28, 2011
I just met a man last week, but I had to leave back home which is another time zone. At first he was all sweet. Skyping me everyday until the wee hours of the morning. He even said we should get married. But it's been two days now since we last talked. Yeah he sends me one liner emails and all telling me not to cheat. He's a police officer and he said he will be busy for 3 days. But come on what's a one minute call? So now I have totally lost interest with him coz I'm seeing so many red flags. He is not worth my time after all. I hate this shitty mind games just because I told him I easily get bored and like intellectual guys doesn't mean he could f**k with my brain and emotions. I'm better off alone than be with a very paranoid and insecure individual who will only cause me heartaches in the future.
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Hasn caled
written by Shetty, March 27, 2011
Been datin 4 5yrs hs not cald or txtd 4 3days n we havent caled could it b a sign?
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No Rules
written by El Camaron, March 23, 2011
People, men and women, are complicated. I am seeing a man who is moody, analytical and intense, as am I. We had a huge fight early on, he ran away, but came back. We saw a movie two days ago but he has not called back yet. I use the word 'yet' because I know he will call. He is living (so he says) in an awkward situation, and so am I, and it is hard for us to have privacy until I either get my own place or he gets full use of his place back. I have never seen his place, nor does he tell me where he works although I do know what he does for a living (or do I?) He is (so he says) from a tight knit foreign family and has had family members visiting and living with him due to his financial issues and a shoulder injury.
Mark this, I do not believe everything he says. I am inherently suspicious about the whole scenario. I have asked him many times if he is married or living with someone and he has assured me he is not, that family is staying with him. He also admitted he is not ready to have me meet his family yet. I memorized his license plate number and will have it searched, then my roommate and I will conduct a stake-out to see who is coming and going from his domicile.
I know he will call, but I am going to do my own little investigation to verify this story about his living arrangements, etc. Just for grins. smilies/wink.gif
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get over them and move on to something better i guess
written by dawn, March 23, 2011
Guys can be stupid a-holes. They can piss us off. And they may have great reasons for not getting back to us, but our feelings are important and until we can find someone that will take us for who we are and give us what we need than I guess they are NOT worth it, not worth our time, our heartache, our thoughts, our wishes... It's a hard tale to take but in the end we must not settle. I believe there's a man out there that will treat you good, and provide what you need (within reason). And thats all I got right now, but I'm waiting for an a-hole to get back to me after a first date and he's appearing very flakey even after acting as though he really wants to get together again blah blah blah. idk. it makes me mad. but positive reinforcement is good. Peace and blessings. smilies/sad.gif
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Ma dear
written by Darl, March 21, 2011
I am deeply in love with dis guy n hd claims he does too,when we started datin he called me every day but nw he doesnt at all. I was thinkin if i shld cal but he dosnt pick ma cal now i knw he is not worth it. Guys reali sucks.
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should i let it go
written by precious, March 18, 2011
i met a guy who was chasin me on facebook over xmas an new yr. i made excuses for a couple of the dates he asked me out on to keep him waiting. after a month we met up with each other once...it went well...he told me he liked me, and that he has to go away three times a year..he then ask me out the next night for dinner but i made another excuse, he tex me a couple of days after this to see if i was o.k, but after replyin that i was o.k and if he was..he did not reply to my texts. i called him that wk to ask if we could go on a date and he told me he couldnt, so i invited him round..he didnt show and wouldnt answer his fone when i called, so i let the wkend go and the followin wk i sent him a really angry message that i dont tolerate game playin, and its over. he replied that same day sayin that he didnt do it on purpose, he got caught up. i then text him that i forgive him...a week later he replied that he was away on holiday..i havnt heard from him since..can anyone help?
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selfish
written by Angel, March 11, 2011
men are very selfish in handly their affairs
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advice on how to move on....men just suck in general
written by Ladymoon24 , February 22, 2011
If a man hasn't called he's not interested. And yes it may hurt but turn it around act like you don't care because in the end ALL I mean ALL men are losers and the mind playing game is a bunch of crap once you start seeing signs of this move on he's not worth it and they can give you every single excuse in the book don't by it they want to see how much they can break and bring you down let's all face it ladies its not worth it there is more to life than a man.....PERIOD!
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written by rox, February 17, 2011
ive been in the same situation some guys don't call because they are just aren't ready for something yet but dosen't mean that they aren't interested!! was dating a guy and thought he wasen't interested and went with another guy that i know that he wanted me for a long time but turn out i didn't had feeling for him and when i got back home the one that i thought wasen't interested at all call me back and i felt ashamed cause i went with the other guy and i told him about it and now he don't does not wants me back so i say just wait or ask him
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Why all of a sudden a Guy wont call you back
written by Lizzie, February 11, 2011
I met this guy back in December. He use to call me everyday sometimes three times a day. Then after the new year I didnt hear from him anymore. I called him I could tell he jus wasnt interestead
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Why hasn't he texted?
written by Elaine, February 08, 2011
So I met this guy in Vegas. Then he is blowing up my phone texting me all the time. We live in the same state only 3 hours away and have mutual friends. I drive to see him two wknds after Vegas for a night. We have a great time and plan spending New Years together 2-3 weekends after. He is texting (never calling) a lot which no one seems to ever talk on the phone anymore, only texts and I am texting him. NYE comes and we have a great weekend. After that everything seemed good and then his texts died down. We made plans again with me driving to see him again, and then he was going to come to my place the next month. I ended up cancelling on him because I got sick so we replanned for this coming weekend and he was maybe coming to a wedding with me shortly after. The texts have been dying off and after our last texting and emails, I haven't heard from him in 9 days and we have plans this weekend supposedly. What should I do? SHould I contact him or say screw him, he needs to be contacting me if he is interested?
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If he doesnt call its because he don't care!!!!
written by Marissa, February 01, 2011
Please stop crying for something that is obvious. If he don't call or text u, its because he don't care about u!!! why is so hard for u to understand? I know, being in love hurts and u expected that he call u and treat u like a princess, but face it he is not that into u. U need to move on and keep going with ur life, have fun and show him that u don't need him. There are plenty of guys waiting for u, don't waste ur time!!!!
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no talk at work
written by trudy, January 31, 2011
i work with this guy & we don't have time to talk at work, so we talk online often every day or two. We share laughter, daily things, information, shop talk, and flirting. He is friendly and we speak at work, does he like me or not, he has told me online how attractive he thinks I am. Just not sure about this. What do you think?
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Calling
written by kim, January 25, 2011
I met this guy on facebook, we've never met face to face. It turns our his father was a friend of my dad's. When we met he wanted me to make enquiries about him to be sure he is who he said he is and I did which is how I found out the relationship between his dad and mine. Now the issue is we've been talking regularly on the phone since last year but lately I've been insisting on us seeing and he always has an excuse, he's looking for a better job, not the right time etc. About a week ago I lost my temper out of frustration and I said maybe we should just date like boyfriend and girlfriend, cos I didn't get the idea of planning a wedding with someone you've never met. Anyway he go real upset after I lost $y temper and though I apologised and he accepted, things haven't been the same and now he doesn't call or pick my calls. What would u advice
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They are all jokers!!!
written by Sophie , January 24, 2011
It's all bullshit! If a guy don't call you forget about him, it's his loss. He's missing out not you! Remember girls you are one in a million and if he doesn't realise this then you need to forget him and move on. There are plenty of guys out there. If were all honest we know that these bad apples are bad but we get used to them and feel we need them, we don't, you must remember as humans we are meant to be together- this is why we crave this attention. Once you havn't seen him for a while you will get over him....Think of it this way you are now giving all those other guys out there a chance- let those guys appriciate you! This guy that doesn't call is better left in the rubbish pile and move on to NEXT....Ps only a coward won't call you!!who want's a man like that? Not me that's for sure.
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He stopped caling
written by posh, January 11, 2011
I got to know him for a week and he went back to the state. He used to cal twice a day when he left till December 2010 when he stoped calling.When i call he dosen't answer n when he calls back after a week he tells me stories like, he was admitted to the hospital, his arm got broken. I have known him for 5months. what should i do smilies/angry.gif smilies/angry.gif
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I feel your pain
written by God'sGotYou, January 06, 2011
I read everyone's comments and I see the hurts and the pains through every word written. I just want to say stay strong don't give up. God has the best man for you. He will be everything you want. We as women so desperately long for love and in the process give it to the wrong one. But let today be the day where you leave the idiot alone and let the one God has for you find you. if you don't have peace move on. Trust me I know what I am talking about. The hardest part is moving on because you may feel like there's no one else, but I believe your man is out there. Just hold on and believe. Don't let these men do this to you. Don't waste your life or time.

I use to wonder myself why he didn't call, but honestly no website or blog will tell you because each man is different. What I can tell you is that you are valuable and worth it. Just because he hasn't called doesn't mean you are not a good catch or you're not beautiful. It just means he's not the one and the best one is on the way. Yes, while waiting we get lonely but here's the key to not being lonely as my mother says it, get a hobby. So go out start your business, write your book, etc. He just might be there when you decide to get that hobby and stop waiting by the phone.
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i just dont understand men!
written by lovely lady, December 27, 2010
I met this great guy and was so excited about him.things were going great until a few days ago. We had a minor argument and I told him I was really mad about something he said. We ended our convo on that note and since then the guy that usually calls everyday, went to not calling at all. Wtf! I just don't understand men.
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Kay.
written by Girlwhoknowsit, December 20, 2010
Honestlu, just because he doesn't call right away doesn't mean he's not interested. Guys are esceedingly dense at times or they're simply testing the waters, seeing how much you're into them as a whole. Here's the deal, if you get a weird call from them and they're distant, drop it! It's not worth going into, give it a few more days and if he doesn't call you, call him and say; "What gives? I thought you were into me but I guess I was wrong. This whole not communicating thing sucks. I really like you, if you don't like me, just say so. Don't freeze me out."

Hope that helped.
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I'm confused
written by Newt, November 27, 2010
I reunited about three weeks ago with a guy I knew years ago. We've seen each other about five times and really enjoyed each others company. When I talked to him last, he asked when would he see me again. Then he said he'd call me back in ten minutes, but didn't. I texted him and called and left a message but he has not responded. I know he has family in town for the holidays, but it only takes a minute to talk or text. I feel so down.
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Just had to talk about it
written by Amy, November 26, 2010
I met this guy on a dating site that I had just about given up on. Most guys on those are weird, live with their parents, are too old for me, married or live way to far away. Then I get a message from one who is none of the above. We sent a few emails and decided to meet.

We met up and clicked right away. Sat and talked there for 5 hours. He kept saying how he would like to take me to dinner etc next time. The next day I got another email saying how much he enjoyed meeting me and how much he liked and wanted to see me again. More emails followed and that Tuesday he came by my work just to see me and talk for a few minutes.

More emails followed the next day. He said he would call me but never did and now the emails have just stopped. I called him once to say hello and he seemed very pleased to hear from me. Yet he makes no effort to bother trying to contact me at all.

I'm not sure what to do now. I want to call but I don't want to seem needy. I'm not sure if he lost interest or is busy or just bored with me. I HATE IT when guys do that. lol I'd rather just know which it is.
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Lisa, I agree with you.
written by Dreamie, November 24, 2010
It's true, you can't "make" a man act any differently than he wants to act. I can't even make my husband smile for family picture on my son's 21st birthday. He questioned me why I've to make him do things he doesn't like. Am I asking too much. smilies/sad.gif
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Love is so fleeting
written by Let it go, November 22, 2010
Wow, I have had men come at me with the speed of a freight train and others about as slow and misguided as a feather blowing in a soft summer breeze...

sometimes that feather would touch down to the ground and make its way into my heart... little do I know that feather is wating for the next breeze to pick it up again, only to engage me in its whimsical dance with destination unknown.

Its nothing these slow out the gate men are really doing to get the momentum going, its that breeze of fear that I may soon be out of their grasp that moves them to action.... but each breeze continues to come without certainty and direction often without consistancy.

I often grapple with men who seem to float in and around relationships with me. No matter how high I jump or how far I reach out to grab the feather and pull it in... as it always eludes me with each take of the wind as it would rather dance with fear, uncertainty and plays on self gratification rather than let go and commit to the love that is waiting in my out-stretched hands.
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confused
written by Margarita, November 22, 2010
I stared a relationship about 5 weeks ago with the most amazing man. When he is in town he send me a text every 3 hours and make me feel like I'm the only one in this world. However when he leaves town he does not call or text, maybe ones at day and make me feel completely out of place. I'm not sure what to think about this because he moved to another town (work related) and I don't know what to expect smilies/sad.gif
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written by Consuella, November 13, 2010
I am in such a mess. I have been seeing a guy now for about a year. I am totally in love with him, but there are lots of issues. First of all, I am still legally married to someone else, but am and have been living separated for a long time now. Also, my guy is my boss at work and my still legal husband works there too. It's horrible. We can't do anything outside of my place because of work. I am going crazy and feel like it's all falling apart. On top of all of that, my guy has issues. He gets angry about things that are such minor things that Im not sure he can handle big issues that I am sure we will have to face. IDK what to do any more...any advice??
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JD, I'm with you! This is CRAZY!
written by Lisa, November 08, 2010
Just ten weeks and we've had three break-ups already. Then, last week, he used the "L" word in a sentence, lumping me in with his children, as in "the people I love." He's 15 years older than me. Shouldn't he know better? I really thought we had something going. We're adults, we talk things through. But on Thursday, we talked for 30 seconds and now it's Monday night and not a peep since. And I, mature woman that I am, am thinking "Really? I put up with this? Why?" And instead of confronting him (again) over this issue, I read this post, especially JD's comments, and I simply have chosen to let go.

He is allowed to not be all that into me. (Although frankly, I'll be tough to replace.) Gosh knows there are plenty of men I haven't been interested in who wanted me badly. Ten weeks of extreme highs and lows. That should have been a warning sign that things were off kilter. The man needs to be set free. He isn't playing a game, he isn't trying to hurt me, he isn't too busy at work. He's just incredibly distracted by his somewhat disorderly life and I am not enough of a priority for him to alter the way he behaves. So I release him. I won't call. I'll be sweet if he calls me. But there's no need for drama. I am letting it go. It's crazy to spend energy hoping someone else will meet a need, do what I want them to do, anything. I wish him well. I know he'll eventually call, and I'll answer - as a friend, not as his former girlfriend, which is what I've become as of today.

All of us women need to know this: you can't "make" a man act any differently than he wants to act - and they can't truly "make" us do anything either. If they "make" us crazy, it's our choice to respond that way to their behavior. Breathe. Let go. Let whatever will be, be whatever happens.

Ahhh. Pep talk for you and for me. Feel better? Me too!
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Miss
written by Sam, November 04, 2010
It's true, if he does not call you, it means he does not want you. When couples want each other, they think about each other and then yes call each other. Don't fall into the trap like I did for 11 years but yesterday I decided enough was enough. I've been with my boyfriend 11 years and in the beginning he used to call me as much as I did, but then he'll pick he fight with me and not call me or will just vanish for days to weeks and months on end, longest being 3 months and because he knew doormat me will be waiting for him. I would ask him why didn't he call and his answer would be that I should of rang him and why should he. Well he should of because he picked all those fights and he is the one who would vanish without a word. Every time he did this me, I would wait for him to come back, but now after 11 years he still picked a fight with me over the phone and totally lost it like a bad man 5 days ago, and then rang me today and told me that I should of rang him and why should he ring me, men like this do not change, i've learnt the hard way, I gave him my all but I just got hurt in the process and the days he was nice to me was just fake, an act. When he rang today, my heart was beating like mad, from anger and the shock that he rang. He had nothing nice to say about me so why call me then. All the times when he has done this to me in the past, I would say no way will I put up with this and go back to him but for some reason I went back eveytime to him, and instaed of things getting better, they have got worse and worse. I've really wanted to walk away especially for past 1 and a half years but he has been threatening me because he is crazy. If a man wants to be with you, or loves you or wants to marry you, would he ignore you? would he hurt you, would he make you cry, would he stop calling you? the answer is no and I just need to get this through my thick head. I don't know what to do, how to behave if he calls? How to be strong. I know i'm happier without him smilies/sad.gif
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He didn't call because...
written by Bill Bucher, October 27, 2010
The main reason I will not call back after a couple of dates is she has turned each date into a chess match. Mixed signals of come here voice and stay away body language, will send me packing even on someone I actually like a lot.I quit calling someone after this Saturday night, I will not call back. We have enjoyed three nice dates, but she is evasive about any type of affection. She would not even hold hands at sunset at the beach. I take mixed signals to mean declining interest and I don't intend to bother her anymore.
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written by i, October 23, 2010
I've read all the comments and I STILL don't understand why he doesn't call. Guess I'm stupid or something. The anxiety and helplessness hurts so much. Sad to read someone so wrongly that they appear to be in love and talk about a future and then...nothing. Even wondered if he was dead.
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men who care or not
written by helpless, October 13, 2010
why would a man get angry if women does not call them after a week if they stated they don't want a full relationship? men have hands/fingers to use the phone...

does he care because he didn't here from the women or is he just playing games.
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if a man does not want a relastionship why would he get angry if the women don't call him for a week
written by helpless, October 13, 2010
i was busy dealing with alot of isses therefore didn't call him. he said he didn't want a full relationship. when i called to he was angry that he didn't hear from me. what's up with that...why is it men don't call and we are not to get angry but when we don't call them they get upset...

does he care or is he just playing games.
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written by Affected, October 08, 2010
He used to call me about 3x or even more when he was still proposing the relationship,when I fell in love he goes down to 2 or 1 time. These days he does not even respond to my text.I so love him but by the look of things he does not mean it.I really feel used emotionally & I just canceled our date for today because I'm afraid after we sleep he will neglect me.
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I agree with JD
written by Angelia, October 01, 2010
Only immature, insecure, game playing, time wasting men play the don't call her for days game to keep you on their minds but they have other things going on and are not thinking about you so forget about them.
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dont call after dating
written by emily, September 22, 2010
i thank you so much coz uve explaine everything to me and now i no where i belong
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don't call men, is better to let them call you
written by Reborn Girl, September 10, 2010
You should all pick up "The Rules" it will save you a lot of trouble and stress in relationships; women give way too much and guys loose interest very quickly when you give too much too soon, read "the rules by ellen fein and sherrie schneider" it has saved my love life
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Enough is enough
written by JD, September 07, 2010
I'm so fed up with the so called 'dating game' why can't people just be plain honest & upfront. I like you, you like me, let's go out on Friday & have a great time... but ooooh nooo that's too simple there has to be all this ducking + diving gameplaying, come on strong with the phone calls & texts laced with interest to lull you into a false sense of security only to back off or worse disappear on you all together & leave you hanging. I just do not get it... what kind of inhumane behaviour is that, what can be gained??? The mental torture, why hasn't he called, when will he call, shall I call? Only for your stomach to ache with anticipation & to be tied up in knots with anxiety. Short men, tall men, bald men, hairy men, the educated, the losers, men of all colours & descriptions do this - make complete fools of us women & they are probably laughing their heads off. Well I'm on a dating strike I have had enough, I am not complying to that trash anymore. Best to just be friends first & let that develop & forget dating altogether. Who needs it? Enough is enough!
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THANK U
written by KJ, August 23, 2010
Thanks you for that article and comments. It also made me stronger not to call him. I went out with the Man for two months we were close I thought. He called me everyday at first in the mornings sometimes to say hello. Then I slept with him after a month or so - maybe longer then the calls were sometimes less, then skip days. I asked him if he was going waiting to see if something better comes up then calling he denied it. It has been 5 days and he called last. I asked him what he was doing on Saturday and he said he did not know. I am hurt but after reading on this I say good bye to you creep. If a Man does not have the courtesy to call and just say we need to go our separate ways then that is a true coward. Especially after asking. I deserve better than that. I am not even texting him......Thanks to all of you again smilies/wink.gif smilies/wink.gif
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written by SANDRA, August 19, 2010
Unless of course you are dating an Aquarius man...lol They tend to do just the opposite of anyone else, especially when they are interested.
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Need to be stronger
written by Sex is my weakness, August 16, 2010
I slept with this guy I thought he really liked me but i no new from him now ! Well it feels awful! It hurts smilies/sad.gif but I try to smile everytime i walk down the street and I can still see that turn some heads around. smilies/smiley.gif
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Thank you Zach 1/11/10
written by Trina, August 07, 2010
Thank you Zach for your comment that "he's" not worth worrying over. I am a wonderful person and this man that I thought I had a connection with hasn't bothered to call me or answer my e-mail. It's been 2 weeks and I was agonizing over it. Someone else will see the good in me. It's HIS LOSS! smilies/grin.gif
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Thank you!!!
written by Confused, March 18, 2010
Thank u so much. I was hurting so bad wanting to call him. But you have helped me to be stronger in this situation.
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inhumane
written by nano-nini, March 14, 2010
I met a really nice guy right as he was leaving out of town for business. He was gone for quite a few months and we kept in touch via email and short phone calls. When he finally returned, we met up for a weekend to reconnect. It was great! We talked a lot, laughed; I felt like I had known him forever. Since we both live in different cities, he promised to visit often. It's been 5 days and I haven't heard a peep from him. no txt, email, phone call nothing...This has been the most painful dating experience I've had to deal with. Painful and humiliating...
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Ms
written by Trish, February 20, 2010
I guess it all depends on whether you become a game player like many men are. I love my man. He loves me. If he doesnt call he either cant or needs some space. Men are as human as women. There are no rules in love.
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Great Stumble-Upon...
written by Who Me?, February 01, 2010
Well done!
Straight-up with a great big arrow that points out what is true...there is someone "out there" who will really dig you. Don't waste-->follow the signs.
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written by Genie, January 12, 2010
It is an excuse for what he does or does not want to say. He longs for the chase. He will call at his on his own time, this is a sign that he has contol issues. Chase em and replace em but don't face em. That seems to be the sterotypes for those types of men. I've got something you can call him: Gone!
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written by Bianca, January 11, 2010
I love hearing that you called him out on his bull! he was totally working you and was trying to play the fake compliment angle about how he is intimidated by your success. What a tool. most women would have downplayed their achievments to pacify his insecurities (if they themselves were insecure) brilliant show my dear, looks like you are where you are in life by weighing out your actions. it's so refreshing to hear.
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Men
written by Zach, January 11, 2010
The question isn't whether men are worth it. The question is...do you think you're worth it? bottom line is when a man knows what he wants, he will go to all lengths to get it. Depending on the guy it could be just a conquest and they have all the right moves to meet their "goals". For other men it is the search of that one woman who will add to their life and devot himself as a husband and father. try and remember when they first pursued you, they gave you everything on a silver platter. Once they got what they wanted they were out the door or worse, they held on to you and became complacent. Being ignored hurts, just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you wont be lonely. I think it's worse actually to be in a complacent relationship. If the guy is married than it's default that you will be dismissed quite easily. it's cruel I know. Overall If he truly wants you, there wont be anything that will ever stop him from pursuing you and keeping you. TRY and remember life is too short to get hung up on a guy who is worthless for not seeing how amazing you truly are.
FYI-when a guy talks about having a deep connection with you, anything to do with soulmates, chemistry or some unseen force they can't explain....it's because it's bullshit. (proven by their lack of communication) that's their favorite line to get you to do whatever he wants whether you like it or not like an idiot stressing over someone who isn't stressing over you. enjoy your life, women are the stronger of the forces and men are scared to death if you ever really figured that out.
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Good article...
written by Waterbaby, December 25, 2009
...but men are too painful. Is it worth it?
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written by single gal, December 22, 2009
I met someone in a work related setting. We were both immediately attracted to each other. He called me the next day. We had lunch soon after and he called everyday since our initial meeting. We had dinner one evening(officially or second date) and he baegan sexual banter that I felt waas inappropriate this early in the relationship. He also stated that he did not want to get married again and that he found me somehat intimidating in my professional success and my self confidence.(He is divorced.)He also expressed that he was not sure about wheter I really liked him and was not convinced until I called him while I was away. I shared my feeling with him regarding his statements. He continued to call and inquired about doing something over the weekend. We were scheduled to speak that evening He called me and got my voicemail. ( I wdid not hear my phone). I returned his call and received his voicemail. I have not heard from him since and I have not called him. I am aware that: (1) it is the holiday season and he may have been apprehensive; (2)he is not monogamous and has other relationships; (3) he is a game player; and (4)most importantly, he does not want to get serious and feels that this is the way we are/would be heading. I have accepted that and have moved on. If he ever does call again, I will be friendly and polite, but will not go out with him again. Two things that I lack are time and patience. I can never recup time and have no patience for bull.
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'Understanding' is the booby prize
written by nica, December 19, 2009
This type of guy has mommy abandonment issues. She left him, he's angry, now he gets 'intimate' (aka mommy) to get a payoff or power by abandoning her (aka you). There's a reason your girlfriends wiggle their little finger if he walks passed. He has an emotional baby dick. Feel happy you know it now rather than spend any more figuring him out or 'understanding' him or trying to change him. He's angry. Work on yourself to attract someone happy instead.
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Only go out once a week
written by MR, November 30, 2009
Hi, met this great guy back in August. It took him nearly 2 weeks to call me. I didn't respond for almost month after he called and sent me a text message. Finally I agreed to go out to dinner and we hit it off great. We now go out once a week. One week we had back to back dates. Had a great time, however we both had quite a bit to drink and I ended up staying at his house. We have continued to see each other again once a week. Strange thing is he never calls during the time we are apart. He does travel extensively and his job sometimes requires him to work weekends. I have 2 children as well which of course occupies the majority of my time. Either he is wanting to take things very slow or he doesn't like me as much as I like him and doesn't want a relationship. Like clockwork he will text me at the beginning of the week to see when we can meet up for dinner. Today it didn't happen. So it's seems a little weird, any advice out there? I know he is not married and according to him never married. He hasn't discussed any previous relationships with me either. It has only been about 2 months.
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He txts like crazy and suddenly NOTHING
written by Sati, November 04, 2009
I am in same situation as alot of you; we both (married) but we have known each other for 3 years; off and on... he will text alot and sometimes he takes a month or longer; out of the blue, he will text again. Last week, he texted me 300 texts and send some pics of him and haven't heard from him in 4 days now....? What's up??
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written by JDD, September 29, 2009
I think I knew this deep down but having ventured on a date with someone who is very charming but seemed vulnerable, someone I have known of for many years - you take things at face value and then a second date, he said all the right things and asked when I was free again there was chemistry and laughter and he has not called in a week I think it is creul.
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I object!
written by riviera, September 04, 2009
I have to totally disagree with this article. You can't treat all guys the same or expect the same from everyone. That is the real key to understanding people. It is not about establishing fixed rules and apply them to everyone. No matter who, no matter what, no matter when.... It is about common sense and intuition.

Besides, I believe that people who need everyday contact are insecure. And I have had two very long and beautiful relationships.
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never call me... and disappear for long...
written by Mary Latina, August 28, 2009
thanks so much!! I understand the guy I've just dated recently now... i fell in love with him but seems he is not interested in me, just being polite... smilies/sad.gif
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He hardly calls nowadays.. is he too busy??
written by Nush, August 27, 2009
It's a nice article... thx! I dnt know why he's doing that. He'll be in the country for 3 more weeks. Ever since he's here, he seems to be soo distant. I prefered him when he was away.. at least he wud reply my sms or even give a 15 sec call!! But i just can understand, he says he cares but he doesnt even sms me.. or miss call or call!!! i dnt know wat to expect anymore. It's semi serious.. we're in our 20's. i know him since a LONG time (years!!).. we dated for few months. i dnt knoowwww.... it's frustrating!!
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same situation as marie
written by bibo, July 10, 2009
I am in the same situation as Marie and I had talked to the guy for 5 years before meeting. Finally we meet and then he ignores me. At least tell me that you don't want to see me again. We are both married and I understand that, but after messaging me constantly before it is a complete turn around to ignore somebody.
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written by confused, June 13, 2009
my boyfriend broke up with me over a really stupid argument this weekend. he said i was stressful but he just entered a tournament and didn't qualify for it. he said he'd call wednesday, texted me on wed and said to give him a few days, and its now saturday. what should i do?
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friend
written by jessica, May 06, 2009
i am in a 4 year relationship and just moved out of my boyfriends parents house... his parents are crazy..... now im living at home and he stayed with his crazy family... he tells me that he will tell his parents that we are still together when the time is right,,, he is starting up his own business and wants to keep our relationship on the down low because i think he's afraid of his parents making his life miserable, and he cant deal with the stress right now,.... but while all this is going on, i went from seeing him every day to seeing him 3x a week. its hard for me and i cant stand when he doesnt call when he says hes going to. how do i make him want me, he says all the right things, but his actions just dont show it sometimes
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We were exclusive
written by Blue, April 15, 2009
We had just decided to be exclusive and were on our second week. We had slept together twice and had been dating off and on since October. Then over texting, which is not the way to go, he became upset and quit talking. It has been two days now. I feel he was trying to pick a fight and feel pretty blue. I just hope this article does not apply to my situation, if it does, truth is good too.
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not calling or anything??
written by marie, March 23, 2009
i am trying to be reasonable and expect that my "friend" (he and I are both married) is really really really busy. But one week after spending a glorious 3 hour hot sessioj together which included much cuddling and divulging of personal information (more him than me) i am livid that he hasn't left me a 20 sec voicemail or dropped me a two sentence email I wish I didn't enjoy his company so much....
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written by Monique, March 01, 2009
Interesting article. I found this site that deals with questions why guys don't call and it seems to cover all bases
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written by bugfizz, January 31, 2009
I like this article, it covers the whole scenarios
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written by R, December 27, 2008
Thank u so much, u just made everything clear to me xoxo
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