In the very beginning of a new relationship, you really do not have to exert much effort to feel the romance. Each time you see him your heart beats a little faster and the world seems so much brighter. After a few years of marriage however, it can seem that the honeymoon has ended and those feelings of euphoria change to the stresses of everyday life, dealing with children, work, maintaining a home and other daily responsibilities. This is when it seems that romance is lost forever and when you may feel that you need it most.
Keep in mind that love, although it grows over time, needs to be tended much as you would tend your famed flower garden. It needs the sun and rain, it needs to be ridded of weeds and fertilized in order to see your flowers bloom in all their glory. Love and romance work the same way. Although after years of marriage you may still feel love for your husband, it has become a mellower and deeper committed feeling than what you first felt in those honeymoon years. In order to strengthen your love to stand the test of time, it must be nurtured. The romance in your marriage must be kept alive in order for your love to survive the long-term.
You should always make time for your mate. Never take him for granted and never assume that he will always be there when you want him. Of course, there will always be something seemingly in your way. With children, work and a host of other life situations, you may find that making time for your romance is virtually impossible. However, keep in mind that the more time you make for the two of you, the better you will be able to handle all of life’s other predicaments together.
If you find getting away to be impossible, then plan a date night at home after your children have gone to bed. Be sure to kiss often and never neglect to utter that wonderful “I love you” whenever you get the chance. Date nights do not have to be done outside the home. There are many things that you can do at home to keep your romance alive and thriving. Playing board games, watching a favorite television show or movie, while curled up on the couch together, and even dancing together can spark the romance between you. Of course, there will always be things in life that will be on your mind, you should try very hard to clear your mind of everything except for the one that you love during this time. Sit down together and have long talks about the future, only be sure to neglect talking about your current worries or problems. Make this night only about the two of you and the love that you have shared for all these years. Watch the video of your wedding and relive that day together. These little things will go along way when rekindling that spark that has seemingly died down.
Remember that the most romantic thing you can do for your loved one is to put them first. Make time for them even if you do not have any time left. Do small acts of love. Give him flowers or write him a love letter. Say “thank you” and be considerate of his feelings. Gently touch his arm while you are speaking to him. Share jokes together. Laughter is a wonderful aphrodisiac. In addition, do not forget to hug and kiss often.
If he does not normally do romantic things for you, give him a nudge in the right direction. Let him know that you would love to receive flowers on special days or for no special reason at all. Remember that your husband may be a wonderful man and father, but he is no mind reader. Women often have to give men a gentle nudge to get them pointed on the right path.
Above all remember that communication is everything. Although you may be able to read your husband like a proverbial book, it is important that you talk often. Ask him how his workday went. Allow him to relax and talk to you while you are preparing dinner. Be sure to not over criticize and always pay attention to what he is saying.
Finally, never share intimate secrets with a friend or other confidant that you can share with your husband. Do not spend too much time worrying about housecleaning or sitting in front of the television when you can be spending time with him. Never underestimate the importance of romance in your marriage. When nurtured, your love can grow to amazing heights, but neglected it will surely shrivel up and blow away. Be sure to always put your husband ahead of friends, neighbors and co-workers when you need emotional support. Spending more time together and really communicating to each other are the keys in keeping the romance alive in your marriage.